Sunday, 25 June 2017

I'm a Mother and I still don't get it!

Namaste guys what's shaking?

With World Pride around the corner, I wanted to bring something to your attention.

When I was young, I always knew that when I became a mother that I would love my child no matter what.

I started going out with this guy who I ended up being in love with but there was a problem, because of his background and his beliefs, his parents would see me as a problem even if I decided to embrace their beliefs.

Nope. Wasn't going to happen . So He did everything to make me leave him, make excuses to not go out , be a cunt to me and even cheat. Why? Because he knew that he couldn't stand up to his parents , they would disown him.

I kept thinking how is that possible? Parents are suppose to love their kids unconditionally. All I kept hearing was

"You're not a parent, you wouldn't know."

That aside, I now have a 4 year old daughter. It's obvious that sometimes I let her get away with murder but she's my rainbow child.

Now when she grows up, if she decides that she wants to be a dancer instead of working in an office, I will support her, if she brings home a guy who's from a different back ground, it might be difficult but I will support her. If she decides that she supports Inter Milan and not AC Milan, then I'll support her.

If she chooses a religion that makes her feel good , then fine . I'm not going to start telling her that she needs to follow a certain religion because I'm not bothered about religion.

If she decides that she likes girls, guys or both, then I don't really mind.


I'll tell you and this might be hard for people who care more about what other people think and what their religion apparently says than the happiness of their child.

I'm her mother. I carried her for 38 weeks, through nauseas, heartburn, swollen feet, sciatic nerve pain, then had her via cesaeran. I've suffered late night's, teething , vomiting, fever and constant worrying and I am not going to tell her, you can't do this because I'll get upset.

I will never use religion to emotionally black mail her. That's child abuse!

I will never tell her not to hang out with certain people because their different. And if she asks why they're different then I will explain the best I can.

How can parents turn their backs on their children? What kind of monster would do that. Your child should mean everything to you and all you care about is what people think and what God thinks?

I will tell you what God thinks of you.

He/She thinks you are a self centred poor excuse of a human being who only cares about bullying someone vulnerable into believing your old fashioned made up cherry picking stupidity instead of seeing them happy.

How dare you say that you love your child and then put them through misery because you're worried about what your stuck up neighbours will say. Screw them!

You do not deserve that child that you're bullying.

And please don't tell me I have no idea because I'm not a believer .

A believer of what?

I will tell you what I believe in.

I believe in unconditional love between a parent and a child. I believe in letting your child choose over what they want to believe. I believe in common sense and looking for solutions to problems rather than teaching that you need to ask someone to intervene. I believe in educating my child in the knowledge that everyone is the same and equal rights are for everyone. I believe in teaching the horrors of yesterday so that they won't be forgotten. I believe in telling my child that she can do what ever she wants even if people tell her that she's a girl.

Does it make me a liberal? Am I a heathen? Does it make me feminist? Maybe I'll say yes to all three.

To all the parents who are sticking by their kids whether, they choose to be a different religion, choose a different career, have a partner who is different to what you expect , be it religion , culture or gender, I applaud you! And for those who continue to put everyone but their child's feeling first, shame in you!

With that said I bid you Namaste Til next time.

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